Why You Can’t Find A Good Man!

Peace and Blessings,We were strolling along and out of the corner of my eye I saw this beautiful dress. It was a yellow dress! I couldn’t believe it. A real, live, sexy, solid yellow dress! No flowers, no ugly shape! We went into the store and there it was. The dress I have been looking for since 2004. It was at first sight…until I looked at the price tag. I told my date sadly, “lets go…I never buy things that expensive…its just too much.” My date stopped me and looked into my eyes. “I said get whatever you want. I can tell you have been wanting this for a very long time. Here, take a size 6 and a size 4 and go try it on Beautiful.” So, I tried it on and OH MY GOD! I absolutely had to have it. My date handed over the Mastercard and with one swipe it was mine. I am think I am in love with this person.Anyway, we finish eating and start talking. Conversation got deep real quick. We talked about something I struggled with last week, we talked about someone else I had my mind on, (believe it or not…we are honest with each other like that), and we even talked about my crazy *** family. I don’t like doing that but my date made me feel comfortable talking about them. We lost track of time and almost arrived late to the movie!

The movie was so good I didn’t flirt with my date while I was there. We laughed and almost cried. It was definitely worth seeing in the theaters.

So, after shopping, dinner, and a movie here we are. I tried the dress on with the shoes and jewelry because she asked me too. Yeah, my date was a woman. A sexy, chocolate woman. My date was me. Oh, you didn’t think some dude would take me on a date like that did you? Silly rabbits.

I just had another lovely day by myself. I enjoyed it.

 

Yes, I went out on a date today. I was gone all day. Left my house at about 3:00pm and didn’t get home until 9:00pm. I came back early because my date treated me like a lady and did not want me out at all hours of the night. When I got home though, I invited my date in. *whispering: my date is still here while I type this* Anyhow, we went to the mall

and I had to grab some stuff for my Grandma. My date was very kind and patient with me. Didn’t complain at all. Then my date surprised me and told me to get whatever I wanted for myself before we went to the movies.

So, we dropped $100.00 on that dress. (this is a lot to me, I usually pay around $20.00 for a dress…$30.00 is pushing it!) My date kindly suggested we find jewelry and shoes to go with this beautiful yellow dress. Dropped about $40.00 on that. But my date was not finished yet. I figured after the jewelry and the shoes we would go and get the movie tickets and then sit down and have dinner

. Nope, my date said, “well Lillian, you said you needed some sweats for when you work out and pick your grandmother up in the morning…lets go get some.” See why I am in love yall?

We picked up some sweats, a hoodie, and a little sports jacket for me, put the stuff in the car and then headed to the movies. We got the tickets for that movie 300 and then went to Johnny Rockets for dinner. I had a strawberry banana shake, which I sipped from in the most sexy way possible because I am flirtatious like that when I am on a date. I could tell my date was getting a little warm from the way I was drinking that shake. (you had to be there to understand) The jacket came off. We were looking into each other’s eyes. I swear…if I wasn’t celibate…

I’m curious…..What Happens When The Party Stops?

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May 15, 2009 around 1:30 AM, I’m awakened  by what sounds like numerous of car doors shutting and commotion that literally shakes the walls in my living room. Not knowing what was going on, I crept upstairs to open up my balcony door to hear cries as..”OH MY GOD..OH MY GOD”…”GET IN THE CAR!” coming directly from my NEXT DOOR neighbors home. Also saw two adults carrying 2 children speeding off into the night who eventually came back later. At this point I’m frightened and call the cops. I explain to the dispatcher what I’ve heard and even mentioned that maybe I’m over exaggerating. But to my discomfort, the dispatcher told me that I was not. There have been calls made in about gunshots on my street.

Now there are about 20 police cars, homicide agents, ambulances, media, and crime scene investigation vans out front in addition to the yellow police line tape laced all around my neighbors property and mine. Several hours later, a statement by the head detective is made to the media.

“Female victim found upstairs with gunshot wounds to back and legs. Dead upon arrival at the scene. 2nd victim is male with gunshot wounds, dead on scene. “

This could not be happening? I just said hello to them not to long ago and they had their sons’ first  birthday party last Saturday with loads of friends and family? And now what happens to their 9 yr old daughter and son?

Unfortunately, there have been calls made to the house in the past due to screams and domestic violence. Please! If you are in an abusive relationship, DO NOT STAY. I know it sounds cliche, but now I’m an actual witness to what may happen if you do. I know everyone’s situation is different, but PLEASE…just don’t risk your life. We never know what’s actually going on behind closed doors. We need to be a bit more kind to each other because you NEVER know who is on the fence.   I <3 you and let’s take better care of ourselves.

Cheers!

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MJQ - 736 Ponce De Leon Ave Atlanta, GA 30306

The Archive Art Gallery-   583 Juniper Street  Atlanta, GA 30308

MJQ is a well known underground hip hop club that I’ve been going to for close to 8 years now. Two of my favorite DJ’s spin on Friday nights. DJ Rasta Root in the front room playing some of the best new and old school hip hop and DJ Cozy Shawn in the back playing the most soulful funk/house music you’ll get in Atlanta.

Now the great thing about summer time in Atlanta…”NOT SUMMER TIME IN THE LBC” MY CALI FRIENDS…LOL….is that you’ll start having “late night” parties springing up in the Atlanta area. A late night party is a “party”…(YAAAAH) that starts usually around 3:00 AM in different secret locations. I ran into a really nice late night on Friday at The Archive Gallery. Very spacious with a good crowd and a rockn DJ. This late night is open on Friday and Saturday nights only. All drinks are only $5…and I mean ALL drinks. Anything from Pabst Blue Ribbon to a shot of Patron..lol. JUST $5. Oh..and tell Lyndsey to make her specialty. You’ll love it. =)

So instead of saying “STAY THIRSTY MY FRIENDS” like the Dos Equis guy…

“STAY PARTYING MY FRIENDS!!!!!!!! “   -Single In Atlanta

Cheers!

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Cheers.

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Single In Atlanta:  OMG…Met this hot guy yesterday. Don’t know what 2 do because I don’t want to fall back in the vicious cycle again. LOL

Diva In Seattle:  Gotta love and hate the cycle. Since you’re “conscious” about it. Why don’t you experiment and try something diff. with  this guy?

Single In Atlanta:  Hell No.lol. I’m not going to get sucked in. Girl he is way to cute. Works for the governement, played bball at St. Johns, 6’5, fair skin.

Diva In Seattle:  You’re not even going to just “play” with him?Mannn lol send him here! j/k Sometimes I get involved even though I know its just for play.

Diva in Seattle:  Getting involved just for play helps me thicken my skin-dealing with frustrations! I say if there’s a spark don’t ignore it. :)

Single In Atlanta:  I rather keep him at a distance. If he keeps showing interests, then I’ll make my move.  

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Beware of the 90 Day Newness, it is a 90 day trend that can catch you off guard if you are not careful in your relationship situations.  Some folks may be familiar with the female I dated about a year ago at this time. It was all good “Love was in the air” etc… yada yada yada. THAT WAS THE FIRST 90 DAYS….. You see, the first 90 days is not when you really meet the person you are dating. The first 90 days is like a trial period where you both test demo each other in multiple situations while being on your best behavior. The first 90 days, she will do just about anything, Cook just about anything, say just about anything and accommodate you in various ways just to enhance “the newness.” Men and women out there beware of this 90 day newness, it isn’t real, in fact it is usually about as real as the Real Housewives of Atlanta. It is only after those initial 90 days that the test demo representatives disappear into another dimension and the real individual in the flesh shows up. The real individual either shows up in the true beauty and glory of a last second victorious 53 yard field goal or on the contrary its ugly head and the beast within shows up like the creature from the blue lagoon. Now even though my last relationship lasted 9 months, I think it was the 93rd day of the whole deal when we both realized this sh*t probably ain’t working and we actually don’t even like each other at all. I was really a jerk and not the perfect Mr. Nice Guy and she, well she turned in to Super Bitch and… Got damn! I sure as heck never saw that sh*t comin’. Truly and seriously though, we are both good people but just happened to not be right for each other, just both victims of “the 90 Day Newness.” How does this happen you ask? A failure to separate “the 90 day newness” from true feelings, that is how I believe most relationships are set up for failure. In closing, this note goes out to those who might make a similar mistake, and if your judgment is somewhat sketchy then double the 90 days into a 180 day cycle just for extra critical evaluation. If it is still all good after that then you may be on to something, other wise, don’t kid yourself. Happy Thanksgiving.

Ultramagnetic

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Random Thought:

Being Single In Atlanta is not a bad thing. I love the freedom of being able to maneuver throughout the city with no attachments to nagging/gossiping girlfriends or reporting to a boyfriend. Hanging out with yourself, you are able to keep the party going till 6:00 AM or call it an early night and ditch the spot without having to explain yourself to anyone.

Enjoy being on your OWN time schedule and in control of what YOU want to do. I love Being Single and Not Looking.

Cheers!

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