Perfect Date!!!!!!

One of my friends had a really good date – she just had to write about it …

 

Peace and Blessings,We were strolling along and out of the corner of my eye I saw this beautiful dress. It was a yellow dress! I couldn’t believe it. A real, live, sexy, solid yellow dress! No flowers, no ugly shape! We went into the store and there it was. The dress I have been looking for since 2004. It was at first sight…until I looked at the price tag. I told my date sadly, “lets go…I never buy things that expensive…its just too much.” My date stopped me and looked into my eyes. “I said get whatever you want. I can tell you have been wanting this for a very long time. Here, take a size 6 and a size 4 and go try it on Beautiful.” So, I tried it on and OH MY GOD! I absolutely had to have it. My date handed over the Mastercard and with one swipe it was mine. I am think I am in love with this person.Anyway, we finish eating and start talking. Conversation got deep real quick. We talked about something I struggled with last week, we talked about someone else I had my mind on, (believe it or not…we are honest with each other like that), and we even talked about my crazy *** family. I don’t like doing that but my date made me feel comfortable talking about them. We lost track of time and almost arrived late to the movie!

The movie was so good I didn’t flirt with my date while I was there. We laughed and almost cried. It was definitely worth seeing in the theaters.

So, after shopping, dinner, and a movie here we are. I tried the dress on with the shoes and jewelry because she asked me too. Yeah, my date was a woman. A sexy, chocolate woman. My date was me. Oh, you didn’t think some dude would take me on a date like that did you? Silly rabbits.

I just had another lovely day by myself. I enjoyed it.

 

Yes, I went out on a date today. I was gone all day. Left my house at about 3:00pm and didn’t get home until 9:00pm. I came back early because my date treated me like a lady and did not want me out at all hours of the night. When I got home though, I invited my date in. *whispering: my date is still here while I type this* Anyhow, we went to the mall

and I had to grab some stuff for my Grandma. My date was very kind and patient with me. Didn’t complain at all. Then my date surprised me and told me to get whatever I wanted for myself before we went to the movies.

So, we dropped $100.00 on that dress. (this is a lot to me, I usually pay around $20.00 for a dress…$30.00 is pushing it!) My date kindly suggested we find jewelry and shoes to go with this beautiful yellow dress. Dropped about $40.00 on that. But my date was not finished yet. I figured after the jewelry and the shoes we would go and get the movie tickets and then sit down and have dinner

. Nope, my date said, “well Lillian, you said you needed some sweats for when you work out and pick your grandmother up in the morning…lets go get some.” See why I am in love yall?

We picked up some sweats, a hoodie, and a little sports jacket for me, put the stuff in the car and then headed to the movies. We got the tickets for that movie 300 and then went to Johnny Rockets for dinner. I had a strawberry banana shake, which I sipped from in the most sexy way possible because I am flirtatious like that when I am on a date. I could tell my date was getting a little warm from the way I was drinking that shake. (you had to be there to understand) The jacket came off. We were looking into each other’s eyes. I swear…if I wasn’t celibate…

I AM DANGER.

As we all know, Danger was let go because Ray J. and others thought she wasn’t mentally stable. Who would be normal staying in a house with 23 other women competing for one mans heart? Personally I LOVE Danger and can relate to her in the sense of being called “crazy”. Being a single woman here in Atlanta with no friends, no boyfriend (NOT COMPLAINING ABOUT THAT..LOL.), or family you unfortunately have  no one to talk to and learn how to handle issues on your own. Sometimes you may have a drunken melt down and start balling your tears out to some anonymous man and voice out committing suicide. Does that make you crazy? Or just drunk and reaching out? Who knows? Everyone has their vice. All I’m saying is stop being so hard on people. Maybe try learning something about them before throwing them into the “CRAZY” category. You would be surprise what you actually might learn about someone.

Cheers.

www.singleinatl.com                           www.twitter.com/singleinatlanta

 

90 Day Newness

Beware of the 90 Day Newness, it is a 90 day trend that can catch you off guard if you are not careful in your relationship situations.  Some folks may be familiar with the female I dated about a year ago at this time. It was all good “Love was in the air” etc… yada yada yada. THAT WAS THE FIRST 90 DAYS….. You see, the first 90 days is not when you really meet the person you are dating. The first 90 days is like a trial period where you both test demo each other in multiple situations while being on your best behavior. The first 90 days, she will do just about anything, Cook just about anything, say just about anything and accommodate you in various ways just to enhance “the newness.” Men and women out there beware of this 90 day newness, it isn’t real, in fact it is usually about as real as the Real Housewives of Atlanta. It is only after those initial 90 days that the test demo representatives disappear into another dimension and the real individual in the flesh shows up. The real individual either shows up in the true beauty and glory of a last second victorious 53 yard field goal or on the contrary its ugly head and the beast within shows up like the creature from the blue lagoon. Now even though my last relationship lasted 9 months, I think it was the 93rd day of the whole deal when we both realized this sh*t probably ain’t working and we actually don’t even like each other at all. I was really a jerk and not the perfect Mr. Nice Guy and she, well she turned in to Super Bitch and… Got damn! I sure as heck never saw that sh*t comin’. Truly and seriously though, we are both good people but just happened to not be right for each other, just both victims of “the 90 Day Newness.” How does this happen you ask? A failure to separate “the 90 day newness” from true feelings, that is how I believe most relationships are set up for failure. In closing, this note goes out to those who might make a similar mistake, and if your judgment is somewhat sketchy then double the 90 days into a 180 day cycle just for extra critical evaluation. If it is still all good after that then you may be on to something, other wise, don’t kid yourself. Happy Thanksgiving.

Ultramagnetic

www.singleinatl.com     www.twitter.com/singleinatlanta 

Giving Up Male Friends?

Don’t we love the male friends in our lives that wine and dine us for nothing in return? Honestly, I’m pretty simple. Give me some good food and some drinks, and I’m good. After work, I met up with a long time friend of mine at Apres Diem which is an international style coffee house with a bar. I was glad he called because my day was not going good and a drink is what I needed in addition to some genuine good company.

So $150 tab later, it was time to close out the night. I began to think to myself on the way home. When I do find someone that I consistently date, do I have to give up my male friends that do lovely things for me? That’s going to suck, because I don’t think I would want to?…lol. Who knows, until then…I’m going to keep having a good time! CHEERS!

www.singleinatl.com

Kissing Frogs!

Recently, I’ve discovered that I’ve been kissing  <as my girlfriend would say> “Alot of FROGS.” With that said, I decided to create a list of what exactly I want out of a man to filter out the BS Men in my life. I’ve been told countless number of times to make a list of characteristics of my “ideal mate” or “what I want.”  I never did it because I thought it was silly and not needed. My personality was one that wanted to give a man a chance no matter his situation. Well no more Mr. Nice Guy…I’m part of the Mean Girls Club now…lol.

Single In Atlanta’s advice is: Make a LIST and stick to it!

Cheers.

www.singleinatl.com

Only Black Women Throw Out BF’s Belongings?

cocoesse…

Your Open Question

Show me another »

Do only black women throw out their significant others stuff on the porch?

Had an argument with a friend of mine who believes that only black women are known to throw out their significant others belongings on the porch during or after a argument/fight/break up? I personal think it doesn’t matter the race of the woman if you push her to that point!

• 10 hours ago
• - 4 days left to answer.

 

Answers (6)

by aseptic technique

I agree with you. But I would probably pack them neatly in a suitcase and then set the suitcase outside…..

• 10 hours ago

by Jenn :] 

 

It doesn’t matter what race.

• 10 hours ago

by Lemon

I’ve done it.

-Italian.

• 10 hours ago

by boogar

I agree! My bf of four years has never even pushed me close to that point but let me tell you if he did anything to **** with my heart I wouldn’t just throw his stuff out on the porch… I’d burn it too… and probably break ****. The more you invest in someone… the more likely it is that if they hurt their woman, she will definitely do SuMthin

• 10 hours ago

 

by tigerpri…

No, it not just black women. My white co-worker, threw out all his stuff on the front lawn in a cozy little white neighborhood. She called the cops and told them he did it!! I died laughing at her. She went “black” for about and hour.

• 10 hours ago

  by puertome…

This is a funny question. No not only black women throw out their significant others stuff. My mother is puertorican and she has done it a couple times to my dad. And her sisters to their husbands, and pretty much all the women in my family. Come to think of it, they throw the stuff at their husbands too.

• 10 hours ago

 ****MORE ANSWERS STILL TO COME. =) ********

www.singleinatlanta.wordpress.com

Earth to Random Guy..”I’m on a Date!”

Okay. I’m on a quick mini date which consisted of a beer or two and watching the end of a playoff football game on Sunday night. In the mist of the game, conversation with my date, and drinking some beers, I notice this guy who keeps staring at me. I’ve managed to ignore him for close to 20 minutes but couldn’t take it anymore. So I finally look up and this guy winks?….lol. What is that all about? So I continue to ignore him and now he is doing hand signals, whispering things, trying to throw me a napkin, smoke signals, pretty much anything to get my attention. It was like being in junior high class trying to listen to the teacher and some boy bugging to get your attention to check “yes or no” on his “Do You Like Me” slip….lol. Remind you, I’m still on a date! I’m completely ignoring him and seeing all of this in the corner of my eye and I’M STILL ON A DATE! Men in Atlanta just cannot be that bold? This would never happen in CA….lol. It wasn’t like I was at a club or something, I was at Applebees for goodness sake.

So it gets even more crazy. He now has sent the host over to the table to ask if I was seeing the guy I was with. I said…”YES!”. You would think it would be over with, but NO……..NOT IN ATLANTA.

After getting his answer from the host, he still is being obnoxious and trying to communicate via air. Another 20 minutes has passed and this guy had the nerve to come to the table? Yes……I am dead serious. This guy actually comes to the table and tries to holler at me? I know the Remy Hair is banging, but dayum….lol. You really can’t be serious. So of course my date wasn’t having that, so he stepped in already annoyed at the fact that the host came to the table initially and now this joker is here.

I like to handle these situations myself. I’m not the type of lady that wants a man to step in ASAP. If the man doesn’t get the picture after I nicely say what needs to be said, then the man I’m with  should step in. I’m not one of those girls who want men to fight over her. No way jose!

So this random guy pretty much says that he thought we were on a business meeting and that he is a mover and tried to hand me that same got dayum balled up piece of napkin? WHAT? Please shut up and get away from me already….lol.

Long story short, if you go on a date….just get a booth in the corner somewhere. Avoid the entire BS that comes with the high tables on the outside of the bar. Cheers!

www.singleinatlanta.wordpress.com

husband hiding blackberry after i caught!

This post is dedicated to “I’m assuming” a young lady who searched “husband hiding blackberry after i caught” and was directed to my blog.

My personal opinion about this is your husband is doing something he shouldn’t be doing. I once was in this situation with and ex boyfriend of mine. He always left his phone around because I NEVER snooped in it because I trusted him and had no reason to.  But one day………HA….lol!

Long story short, he forgot to erase text messages in the phone he was going to give me. Saw all sorts of inappropriate text messages coming from him and her. I think there were dayum near 2 different women….lol. So I confronted him and that night he hid his phone…lol. WHAT A RETARD! So I pretty much told him to pack up his belongings and get out of MY house….lol. No explanation needed because he was already acting tricky before me finding all of that.

So your situation might be a little different, but bottom line….he’s hiding something.  THANK GOD FOR TECHNOLOGY…MAKING IT EASIER TO CATCH CHEATERS…LOL. No more random drive bys in the middle of the night or surprise visits…lol…I never did that, but heard about it…HA!!!  

Cheers!

www.singleinatlanta.wordpress.com

I HATE MY EX

I know there are ladies out there who regurgitate at the thought of forgiving your ex. Are you suppose to forget all the lies, cheating, and BS he put you through? Fuck that! He was the one <caught out there> cheating…ha. All though you hate your ex, you shouldn’t find yourself thinking about them, or worrying about their situation. Get rid of all the pictures you have together, yahoo IM ID’s, myspace, and anything else that resembles your relationship. A friend of mine said “Kick the (insert your ex’s name here) habit. Drop it. Lose it. Place it in a bag and dump it over a bridge.”….lol.  So after you do all of the above,then go on to appreciating your new love and in due time, you will learn to forgive. CHEERS!  Don’t forget to comment about your ex! 

Thanks: Vitamin A, CJB, BB, and SA.  =)

www.singleinatlanta.wordpress.com

I Woke Up Pregnant!

Birth
To dream of giving birth or see someone else giving birth, suggests that you are giving birth to a new idea or project. It also represents new beginnings or some upcoming event. A more direct interpretation of this dream, may represent your desires/ anxieties of giving birth or the anticipation for such an event to occur. www.dreammoods.com

Thank GOD it was only a dream! It was a nightmare. I woke up in a cold sweat and everything. First of all, if you know me, I’M SCARED TO DEATH OF GIVING BIRTH! The dream was so crazy that I remember taking an epidermal shot, the baby being a boy, didn’t remember who the child’s father was(actually I don’t recall a man being in the dream?…strange), and putting a pic of my “dream” son on myspace under private….lol. Who does that?

Thank goodness I woke up still “Single In Atlanta” and a new outlook on life, the possibility of the birth of new ideas, and a new beginning.  CHEERS! =)

www.singleinatlanta.wordpress.com