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26
May
09
Why You Can’t Find A Good Man
14
Apr
09
90 Day Newness
Beware of the 90 Day Newness, it is a 90 day trend that can catch you off guard if you are not careful in your relationship situations. Some folks may be familiar with the female I dated about a year ago at this time. It was all good “Love was in the air” etc… yada yada yada. THAT WAS THE FIRST 90 DAYS….. You see, the first 90 days is not when you really meet the person you are dating. The first 90 days is like a trial period where you both test demo each other in multiple situations while being on your best behavior. The first 90 days, she will do just about anything, Cook just about anything, say just about anything and accommodate you in various ways just to enhance “the newness.” Men and women out there beware of this 90 day newness, it isn’t real, in fact it is usually about as real as the Real Housewives of Atlanta. It is only after those initial 90 days that the test demo representatives disappear into another dimension and the real individual in the flesh shows up. The real individual either shows up in the true beauty and glory of a last second victorious 53 yard field goal or on the contrary its ugly head and the beast within shows up like the creature from the blue lagoon. Now even though my last relationship lasted 9 months, I think it was the 93rd day of the whole deal when we both realized this sh*t probably ain’t working and we actually don’t even like each other at all. I was really a jerk and not the perfect Mr. Nice Guy and she, well she turned in to Super Bitch and… Got damn! I sure as heck never saw that sh*t comin’. Truly and seriously though, we are both good people but just happened to not be right for each other, just both victims of “the 90 Day Newness.” How does this happen you ask? A failure to separate “the 90 day newness” from true feelings, that is how I believe most relationships are set up for failure. In closing, this note goes out to those who might make a similar mistake, and if your judgment is somewhat sketchy then double the 90 days into a 180 day cycle just for extra critical evaluation. If it is still all good after that then you may be on to something, other wise, don’t kid yourself. Happy Thanksgiving.
Ultramagnetic
www.singleinatl.com www.twitter.com/singleinatlanta
09
Oct
08
Men Who Spend Money
HomeBoy: Cause I like to do it!
HomeBoy: trick off = dating
HomeBoy: trick off could also be called caking
HomeBoy: depends on if I really think I’m going to get sex in return for a date or if I really just want to break bread and chill
HomeBoy: it’s plenty of us out here
Single In Atlanta: are you joking right now?
Single In Atlanta: lol
Single In Atlanta: u need to be tricking off with the Department of Education..lol
HomeBoy: nah… I’m a real trick. I pay for a woman’s attention while fooling myself the whole time that I may get sex. All men do it. Most won’t admit it
HomeBoy: I’ve tricked my money off several times with (insert name here)… I’m sure you already knew that
HomeBoy: If I wasn’t tricking then I was caking. Caking is when a man knows he’s not getting anything, but just wants to spend
HomeBoy: single in atlanta needs to explain this…. negroes need to stop being in denial about they paper and pride’
Single In Atlanta: lol
Single In Atlanta: I kind of had a clue this was going on, but not to this extent..lol.
HomeBoy: I’m tired of cats thinking they a pimp and a mack
HomeBoy: ….I pay for booty and attention. I’ve been doing it all my life. Why be in denial about something I’ve been doing since I was 14
HomeBoy: buying school supplies and lunches with my allowance
HomeBoy: giving away my candy to the cute girls when I used to sell it
Single In Atlanta: i never get those guys though…all i usually get is a dinner and drinks. I guess i’m a meal whore?…lol
HomeBoy: lol… I guess! …I just recently got bold and asked to hang out for “extended time” at their place
HomeBoy(11:16 AM): or mine
AND THERE YOU HAVE IT! CHEERS!
www.singleinatlanta.wordpress.com
20
Sep
08
How to Keep Your Job?
A Relationship is like a job. Not a job that you hate going to, but the job you dreamed of having your whole life. The career path you worked hard to achieve. If it’s where you want to work, you have to work hard at it and not slack off or you’ll get FIRED. To get a raise at this dream job, here are 4 suggestions:
1. Listen to your MAN
2. Trust your MAN
3. Be submissive at times
4. Be a WOMAN.
With these 4 suggestions, you are sure to get a raise and possibly a higher position! =)
Cheers!
www.singleinatlanta.wordpress.com
11
Sep
08
Manipulative Games/Good Advice
Manipulative Games Good Advice
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Don’t return his calls and he will want you more |
Don’t make a man the center of your life. Return his calls but don’t drop everything for him. |
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Be sexy, dress sexy, do everything he wants in bed. |
Dress in a way that makes you feel good, and don’t have sex until you are ready. |
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Hide your real feelings, reamin cool and aloof. Don’t be eager in any way. |
Hold back from sharing all your feelings right away. Be careful not to rush things. Let the flower unfold one petal at time. |
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Don’t call a man or Seem too interested. |
It is fine to call a man, but don’t expect him to have a lot to say, and if he does be pleasantly surprised. And don’t ask a lot of questions. Instead, share your thoughts and feelings. |
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Date around to make him jealous. |
By dating around, but not sleeping around, it will free you from being too needy for his attention. |
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Don’t be too available; say you are too busy sometimes. |
Make sure that you are not waiting for his call. Keep busy in your life so you are not too needy. |
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Dress, speak, smile, flirt in a manner to seduce a man. |
Be careful to not pursue a man more than he is pursuing you. It is his job to seduce you; it is your job to attract his interest. A woman can easily seduce a man, but rarely will he commit. |
Mars and Venus Starting Over- John Gray, PhD
Cheers!
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